Dixie and Mike Aarstad fund scholarship in daughter Krystal's name through a cash donation to the Kansas State University Foundation.
Graduation is supposed to be just the beginning. But within three short years of that achievement, joy turned to sorrow for one K-State family, and creating a scholarship became a powerful antidote for their heartache. Krystal Aarstad was a secondary education math major in the College of Education. She graduated in 2001, the day after her older brother Richmond Aarstad of Meriden, Kan., graduated from the College of Veterinary Medicine. “That was a good weekend for us,” Dixie Aarstad said of her children’s graduations. That occasion brought the family count up to three K-Staters including Dixie’s husband, Mike.
The young Aarstad family had moved frequently due to Mike’s job with the railroad. When Krystal was 5, the family moved to Newton, Kan., and she was the only one of the three Aarstad children who attended K-12 in one school district. Krystal loved Newton. Dixie believes Krystal’s happy days at Newton High School, where she was a diver and in gymnastics, became the springboard for her career in education. “She saw going into education as an extension of that atmosphere,” Dixie said.
Krystal was a committed student and whose friends were “very, very important to her,” Dixie said. Just how important was her education? Krystal was a member of three honor societies upon her graduation from K-State: Golden Key National Honor Society; Kappa Delta Pi International Honor Society in Education Iota Xi Chapter and Phi Eta Sigma, KSU Chapter.
Krystal accepted a teaching position at Buhler High School and bought a two-bedroom starter home in the central Kansas town. She had no experience with cheerleading, but cheerfully accepted a coaching assignment. Cindy Couchman (Class of ’90 and 2009 Kansas Teacher of the Year) was Krystal’s friend and mentor at Buhler High School. “Krystal was a great math teacher,” Cindy said. “I immediately admired her organizational skills and ability to relate to students in class. These attributes were really obvious as a cheer coach. She was able to balance discipline and compassion, and had a sense of humor the girls loved.” The girls may also have gravitated to Krystal because she seemed so much like them. That’s because she was. Dixie said Krystal was at times mistaken for a member of the squad and directly asked where the coach was. “The inside joke was if one of the girls couldn’t make it, they’d just give Krystal a uniform, ”Dixie said.
Krystal would often spend weekends with lifelong friends 30-plus miles away in Newton, the epicenter of her life. So it was no surprise Krystal was heading to a girlfriend’s house for the weekend in February 2004. “The weather was bad,” Dixie explained of their last conversation. “I said, ‘Krystal, please don’t do that, and she said, ‘I’ll be fine, Mom.’”No one knows exactly what caused the one-car accident on her way home. What they know is it was an icy day, and she was killed instantly when her car slid off the road into a concrete abutment on Dutch Ave., near the Harvey-Reno county line. “We were told a nearby resident heard the crash and looked out and saw a couple of dogs running up the culvert,” Dixie said. “Krystal loved animals, and we think she hit the brakes to avoid the dogs, and that was just enough to send her sliding.”
“The scholarship was my husband’s idea, and I’m grateful that he thought of it,” Dixie said. “It was part of her life insurance. Parents don’t want to benefit from the loss of their children.” Mike and Dixie reflected back on Krystal’s college experience, which served as a guiding force in drafting the Memorandum of Understanding. They chose to award the scholarship to juniors and seniors because: juniors are most likely committed to the major at that point; and seniors because they remembered the challenges Krystal faced in trying to juggle classes, homework, student teaching, a part-time job and the expenses of a brand new professional wardrobe.
“I think Krystal would be thrilled about the scholarship,” Dixie said. “We’re just a K-State family. I think she would be proud.” Cindy could not agree more. In fact, their collegiate heritage was something that brought them together. “We had a lot in common, especially our love for K-State,” Cindy said. “She even named her cat Riley (county) after the Manhattan/KSU area! Krystal may have originally been a Newton Railer, but she was forever a Wildcat.”
Krystal’s love of K-State and her parents’ love for her are what led to the creation of the scholarship. Dixie explained the importance of preserving Krystal’s memory with six short but powerful words: “You never want your child forgotten.”